Why am i going friends only? Well as i see it most people go friends only because they encounter drama or problems with others, the content is sexual or deeply involved in the writer's real life, as well as other things. I'm going friends only because i need a catch all place to play out idea for a few upcoming journals and websites i am considering working on. I can work out ideas and get feedback. When i started this journal it really was a catch all and included a lot of personal bits. With new business related blogs coming up, i need that personal line of keeping business just that. I would rather not any of my students find this one if possible. Not that i am such a scandel to begin with...but it's an ethical thing.
When the workshop did begin, we were joined by 5 other people who took Full of Joy's previous workshop. That workshop was only five hours and did not include information like games, behavior issues that may come up, etc. Personally, i didn't like that new people came into the workshop. Although this isn't a training that requires bonding or anything, but when you have a small group of five, and you add another five who were previously together, the dynamics do change slightly. No real introductions were made outside of a name this second day with the new people. So we didn't know their stories and they didn't know ours. Not that it really matters because you are there for the training only really. Maybe i'm old fashion.
The workshop itself was well worth it. The second day we learned all about yoga games, partner yoga, themes that one can put into their yoga classes for the kids. We went over different props that are used and how you can incorporate books and music. We did get into groups and had to teach a class to the others. My group did a class about going on a trip to the zoo. We incorporated beanie babies as props for the animals that we saw. We had about 10 to 15 minutes for our mini class, so we picked out the animals that we saw. I did get nice feedback from Lani in how i ended our particular class. Instead of everyone being on their mats, we ended it in a big group together.
I was a little disappointed with the business aspect of the workshop. Seriously she could have just elimitated it from the agenda. She barely went over how to go about getting classes. Now i wasn't expecting a step by step lay out, but a bit more than she did would have been nice. I can understand that she is new to the area and is building up her business in teaching kids yoga in the area. She was excited to have this teacher training because she was looking for teachers to work for her like she did in San Francisco. When pressed how she priced things, she gave a vague answer. Never going into details. Just that she does charge $60 to $100 but it also depends on the number of groups taught during the sessions. Nor going into how to get into these places. Like i said in some ways i can understand the tightlip because of business competition especially since she is in a new area. But i was expecting a little more in a workshop that does state it would go over business stuff.
Overall i would do the workshop again. It was a valuable experience. In fact , i had already scheduled a tater tot session with the pre school i've been with since november. The workshop really let me get out of this certain way of thinking, and opened up the creative dam. I emailed the preschool to find out what the kids were learning that week. The topic was recycling and the rainforest. Taking the theme of the rainforest, the kids and i took an imaginary trip to the rainforest. Before we did, we played a little yogi says which helps with the kids listening skills. At first the kids would follow what i did. When i put my hands on my belly, but said "put your hands on your toes," most of the kids put their hands on their belly like i did. I had to remind them that i said toes not belly. After a few tries they got the hang of it. Then we went on our trip to imitate the animals they learned in the rainforest - monkeys, sloths, snakes, and parrots.
All the kids, except for one, were so enaged in the yoga play. They partipated by picking the animals, by picking out how we were going to get to the rainforest (some kids said bike, train...i slowly eased them to a plane although one kid took a helicopter instead when everyone was in plane. It was fun to encourage the creativity). Even little Zack who most of the time gives me the hardest time who disrupts the class every single time, was so good that i ended up making him line leader. The only kid that had an issue was Michael. He's not a bad kid. I recently found out that he's on meds -- which i won't comment about because it would led to a huge rant on the drugging of our society. * He was a little more unruly than he usually is.
I go back to this preschool in September three times. Right now i am in the process of getting a few more tater tot yoga classes going on. I've signed up on a special program offered in a housing project. It's a one time thing, and it will include the parents. A nice bonding experience. It does have a posibilities of being more and getting PR from it.
This morning i may have also snagged a deal to teach maybe once a month at the Norwalk Y's Little Wonder preschool . It has been an idea floating in my head for a while. Today while talking with the director of physical education and the issues with yoga the Y i've been having (good issues! our classes are swelling and busting out of the seams). I really want to make the Y a good affordable place to go for yoga with quality classes. Norwalk is abundant in yoga studios, but most are expensive to many people who would love to take classes. The Y has a great fitness pass that you buy, 10 classes for $60 for non members. And to extend the yoga love to the little ones is a great idea. The director of the preschool already knew me, and has heard awesome things about my classes from other members AND those who work at the Y who have taken my class. She thinks it's a great idea, it just has to fit into her budget.
Budgets are something that i can understand. I understand and know i need to make a living out of this. Business always says ask for what you think you are worth. Well i know i'm worth a lot. My time is worth a lot. BUT in an area where they are struggling with even getting the basics, if it's something you are passionate about sharing with a particular population....sometimes you can't charge what you think you are worth. Maybe that is my business faux pas. I tend to work more on sliding scale for certain people and pray that the universe will repay me in someother job or way. (which is a completely new post topic). The Norwalk Y is one of those places, and i am willing to work with price if i can do it on a day when i am already down there to not waste gas.
I get such joy from teaching kids yoga and personally i wish i had yoga earlier in my life.
Ever heard of Full of Joy Yoga? Well if you had, cool, if not....me neither until two or three weeks ago. Surfing online at various yoga studios workshop offerings i stumbled upon the trainings. Full of Joy Yoga is offered by Lani Rosen a Connecticut transplant via San Francisco. I've been very interested in taking a kiddie yoga training, but Yoga Ed. is hilariously expensive, Karma Kids in NYC while affordable gets sold out quickly, and there has been various other local studio/teachers putting their own stamp on the genre but nothing felt right.
In a moment of carpe diem (less than a week before the training),i did my research on Lani and since i liked the price, i signed up. She was kind enough to let me bring my check with me, rather than snail mail or paypal. The training comes at a good time, because i was feeling stale in my youth yoga classes. Looking over what she offered, it fit with what i was looking for - inspiration, business side of things, adding games to the class and much more.
Off to Guilford, CT i went today (and Sunday). A total of five signed up for the full 10 hour training. Tomorrow we will be joined by 5 others who did a previous shorter training and wanted the full shebang. Unfortunately i was late, online directions were wrong and i ended up at a very nice beach in North Guilford before i turned around and pulled out my map. (One day i will get a GPS.) Unfortunately, i missed the introductions and people's stories. Later i did find out that two of the other women knew one of my yoga student/friend.
Day one was mainly about the postures. And a taste of how she incorporates them into the sessions. Inspiration was in abundance! My tot classes felt stale because i was coming at it from an adult perspective, as much as i can be childlike...i wasn't thinking that way with yoga so much. I never felt that more when we were partnering and doing group work. The wheels in my head churning in how this would be PERFECT for not only what i do already but for parent and child classes. We were laughing, enjoying the moment. In that i can see how it can be a great bonding experience for parent and child because many of the postures relayed on trust, and working together.
Lani went over different breathing with names like rabbit, bee, and humming bird. Something so simple and common sense, and it blew me away.
Tomorrow the dynamics of the workshop changes because of the new people. It should be interesting. We will work on games and she will expand more into the stories/themes she uses in her classes. Props will be explained in more detail as well. Today we got a small taste with eye pillows, feathers, pinwheels, and beanie babies. The business aspect will also be talked about tomorrow, which is what i am really looking forward to.
I really think, that this training will be a great addition to my tool box.
I'll update tomorrow.
Law 1. See your Vision and Stick with it -- yeah this came up this week. Money issues abound, questions of continuing came up. What to focus on, where to focus on. I think in the years of going through the motions, i lost, found, reinvented, lost again, found again, and again the vision of what DTW is to be. I never formed a mission statement, still haven't. It's on the to do list. I'll be honest the vision is still a little fuzzy. I think when i started massage, i envisioned myself working with sports people. But honestly it's not me. My first passion is yoga. I do enjoy massage, but i'm not the one to come to for working out an injury, but i don't just do fluffy sessions either ....unless they are asked for. I think my massage practice is for the yogi, or for the one who needs a little nurturing to be reminded of "being well." does that make sense? yeah well i'm still figuring it out. But i did figure out what type of yoga teacher i am. I'm the one who will help you get the basics. I'm the one who is to guide that person who is afraid to go to a class with strangers and wants a little more confidence before they venture there. who encourages others to explore and play and be in the body. or give that gentle nudge or reminder to be in the body. So while the details of my vision has changed....the big picture i never strayed from. I always wanted a wellness studio. At the moment i have my office, a mini studio for privates and massage.
Law 2. Do You - yeah remember when i wrote i wanted to work on sports people. that wasn't a "do you" moment. that was unauthentic. it's a nice thought. great for someone else. i liked the idea...but in the end it wasn't me. Not who i am as a therapist. Even when i started teaching yoga at the gyms, i went hard. As i got into teaching, finding my voice, i mellowed and come at it with intution...just like i do with my massage sessions. I found my authentic self in my craft of massage and yoga. Teaching kids, i have no choice but to be authentic. they can see right through you. Especially teenagers.
Law 3. Get Right in Your Mind - This is where Russell Simmons talks about meditation. I admit my meditation practice wavers. Some weeks it's great, sometimes i go weeks without a personal mediation practice. I wrote about the funk i was in. When i started to clean my room....i felt lighter. the funk started to lift a little. As i get more organized, the lighter i feel. And maybe not so surprisingly, the universe is sending good things my way (clients! workshops! lovely people! understanding landlords who wants to see you succeed.) I pushed the organization this week with a trip to IKEA for some bins and boxes and a niffy metal drawer. I'm placing extra pens, highlighters, and what nots in their own zip lock baggies to keep them together. as i start to see my floor, see orderly books on the cases....my mood is light and airy and i feel like i CAN do this.
Law 4. Stop Frontin' and Start Today - i've already been in business, but i haven't put the push behind it that i should have. This one reminds me by asking me "what the hell am i waiting for?" I was proud of myself the other day when i stopped frontin, and handed my card to a woman in the IKEA parking lot. She worked for an afterschool program. How do i know? Well she was in line behind me and had this funny bright green seat. Actually she had 20 of them. Fate had it that was parked smack dab right next to the Escape. So as i pulled out, i grew some balls and asked. I told her about my yoga and kids, and handed her a card. I may never hear from her, but damnit, i broke out of shell and let business come first.
Law 5. Never Less than your Best - I always do searches online to find out what workshops are being offered. Money keeps me from attending most of them. But for some reason i just said screw money, hello debt and choose to do the kid yoga workshop this weekend. Although i already teach kiddie yoga, i felt i was getting stale. I needed an infusion of life, ideas, and inspiration. I didn't want the one preschool/nursery that i teach at feel like i wasn't doing a great job. And i wanted to be able to use my skills and market myself out. K asked me what i liked best, teaching the kids or the adults....and i just told him it's just different. i really can't compare the two. When i massage i can only hope to give my best, and what the client needs. In my private yoga classes, i only occasionally come in with a plan. We tend to go where they need to that day...unless there is a goal they are working on. My group adult classes at the gyms are ever changing. if i come in with a plan and feel the energy of the class doesn't correspond...i change it up. The classes aren't about me, the massage session isn't about me...but i give my best to make their experience better.
Law 6. Surround yourself with the Right People - The people who come to my classes always amaze me. The people who i've meet along this path have been outstanding. Not all of them. But most. I am a true believer in community, and creating a community of like minded in this field. My best leads have come from my students or clients. My best supporters (outside of family) have been my students/clients. And i don't just mean in coming to classes or booking appointments. But if i asked for a blurb for the website, or if i can take their photo for the site they have complied. Or they hand me leads to jobs, or bring up my name to people who they think i should meet or be involved with. I appreciate them all. Even my office was founded by a friend and fellow therapist who thought i would be a nice fit. I don't take things things for granted because i always give back. If it's a book to loan, or help in finding answers to a question i will hunt it down. I share tomatoes from my garden, just a little mental support by listening. there is a give and a take, but it's all positive. I have noticed that negative people don't stick around too long in my classes. And well, negative people just don't stick that long around me, period. Especially since i've woken up and let the sorority sisters go from my life because they weren't a positive piece of the puzzle for me anymore. I can't do this by myself. I don't know everything, and honestly...i'm probably the worse business person you will meet because i lead with my heart and intution a lot. But i know if i fall, i have a few good people around that may catch me.
I haven't gotten to the other 6 yet....
The drive was like an obsticle course. My mother was trying to call me to stay at the gym, but i had left my phone and charger at the office where i saw someone right before class. Trees down, leaves all over the road, rocks, branches, detours and of course water bubbling up from the sewer caps. I thought i made my break at a good time. I wasn't too far from home, but i wasn't close enough when the hail started all over again. Fire trucks, ambulances, police cars....signal lights outs, just a bad driving nightmare. i thank god it was still light out, and i thank god that i had my Escape. If was still driving the Sundance, i would still be at the gym right now waiting it out.
My parents said a tornado formed somewhere according to the news channel 8. yikes.
I went to the bookstore after class one day. I just hung out there, i didn't by anything. But it was nice to not be in the routine i set up. It was nice to enjoy the moment. That dark stormy cloud....started to clear up a bit with that one small action. Doing something different made me feel not so funky.
Trashbag in hand, boxes to give away to goodwill, bags to put stuff in to give away to friends and students who may want perfectly good books. My room started to feel lighter. I planned to go to IKEA to purchase some organizational storage stuff, but it had to be put off until this weekend when i am heading towards that direction anyway. Even thinking about organizing my stuff into business, personal, and crafts...I thought of feng shui to add to my space, here and in the office. i felt even lighter. Business ideas, marketing ideas, started to pop in my head. I felt energized. And not so surprisingly business started to pick up. My yoga classes didn't seem so stale to me anymore.I felt like playing.
Another out of the routine day after a class and to the bookstore looking for a book that K and i can share in our bookclub for two. This time i came home with Russell Simmon's Do You!. Unorthodox, not everyone's cup of tea. The man's bouncy Tigger ADD annoys me. I'm not a Hip Hop or Rap fan. But i admire the man for the empire he has built. Music, clothing, jewlery and a foundation to give back. I think what i admire the most is that he's a yogi who is trying hard to balance the principles of yoga and being a businessman. The principles in the book come from yoga. Most are common sense, but even common sense needs to be reminded of on occasion. I'll write more about the book when i finish it, but one thing that spoke to me....no, not spoke....YELLED at me was Law Number Three "Get Your Mind Right."
What did i want? When i got into a funk about money due to the expensive repair to the Escape, i seriously considered quiting to work a job that pays. A job that would suck the life and joy out of me, because of money. I read this book at the right time. Common sense advice, but i needed to stop sulking and figure out what i needed. Re find my passion. Re learn what i am good at. And this is it. I put the money issue aside, and as my room got cleaner, offers started to come in. As my mind got better in where i wanted to be, I found out where i needed to be.
For over a year i looked at various workshops i wanted to go to, droolled over taking classes at local studios, wanted to expand my yoga knowledge. I had a chance to go to Yoga Journal's Boston conference with a free place to stay, but money set me back. I looked at my schedule to justify new to the studio trial classes to see if i could milk the most out of my money. But my schedule is all over the place. I look at free classes, but honestly sometimes when they are schedule, i'm just to freakin tired in the evenings or the weekends to do them. Rolf Gates teacher training in October, Cyndi Lee in November, Omega in October, PreNatal at Kripalu, the list goes on and on and on. Money is the issue.
I look at journals of other yogis and wonder how the hell do they do it. And something clicked in me. Just Do It. Yeah so what, Nike my come down on my yogini booty for stealing it's line, but it's too true. In my right mind, i realized to capitalize on what i got and figure out where the universe is nudging me towards to get out of the financial funk. Two words. Children's yoga. It does seem to be a trend lately. But i've been doing it for a while. What pushed me more to this was a workshop that not only was offered locally, but cost three time's less than the workshop i was eyeing in NYC.
It was meant to be. The woman who run's it not only is allowing me to pay the amount when i get to the workshop (usually they want the payment ahead of time), but figuring that this is so last minute she's letting me into the workshop to begin with. The workshop is this weekend. After i made up my mind to do this workshop, i got an offer to teach yoga to parents and their kids for the Housing Authority. It was brought on by one of my students, who gave my name to the woman in charge. The energy there feels right. I've also recieved a lead for a preschool/daycare that is local and interested in yoga for it's kids.
I've also put it out in the universe to go to NYC for the Omega Yoga Conference in October even if i must take the train.
We'll see what August, my birthday month, holds for me.
Imagine my own shock when i fell in love with a shoe. Not just any shoe but a 3.75 inch shoe. I admire those who walk in heels daily. Who show their fierceness and personality with just a change of a shoe. Heck i love how strippers can rock the spike stilletos on and off the pole. I wish i could be as profecient in heel walking. I teter and tottle in heels like a weeble wobble, but i admire the look of them. So i had to get the shoe, the price was too right to pass up.
Honestly it is very rare for me to fall in love with any shoe. I'm like goldie locks with a shoe. It takes a special shoe. I dislike pointy toes, don't like the too round toes, it has to be just right. Too strappy, nope. Peek toes, nope. During this trip to Macy's, unexpected trip no less. I found two pairs of shoes. One came home with me, and the other...my sister is contemplating going back for.
My sister is a shoe person. My sister is a clothes hog. And yes my sister is just a geniune shopaholic. She couldn't deny how fab these shoes looked on me and was very upset that they didn't have her size. These shoes were meant to be mine. Only pair in a size 10. Not a size 6 or 7. Last pair in the store at all.
When i tried them on, i was wearing my black danskin yoga pants. Darlings....they rocked even in yoga pants. Even one of the stores patrons turned around and let out a loud "Those shoes are Amazing! When i showed them to K, he gave me the whistle, a weeeeeeeeeeee and noted how they sparkle. his next statement was "they look like they might break if you do something out of the ordinary in them." Ha. he makes me laugh. Needless to say they were a hit.
So what does this pair of lovely shoes look like?
I Like You by Sandol Stoddard Warburg
I like you and I know why.
I like you because you are a good person to like.
I like you because when I tell you something special, you know it's special
And you remember it a long, long time.
You say, Remember when you told me something special
And both of us remember
When I think something is important
you think it's important too
We have good ideas
When I say something funny, you laugh
I think I'm funny and you think I'm funny too
I like you because you know where I'm ticklish
And you don't tickle me there except just a little tiny bit sometimes
But if you do, then I know where to tickle you too
You know how to be silly
That's why I like you
Boy are you ever silly
I never met anybody sillier than me till I met you
I like you because you know when it's time to stop being silly
Maybe day after tomorrow
Too late, it's a quarter past silly
Sometimes we don't say a word
We snurkle under fences
We spy secret places
If I am a goofus on the roofus hollering my head off
You are one too
If I pretend I am drowning, you pretend you are saving me
If I am getting ready to pop a paper bag,
then you are getting ready to jump
That's because you really like me
You really like me, don't you
And I really like you back
And you like me back and I like you back
And that's the way we keep on going every day
If you go away, then I go away too
or if I stay home, you send me a postcard
You don't just say Well see you around sometime, bye
I like you a lot because of that
If I go away, I send you a postcard too
And I like you because if we go away together
And if we are in Grand Central Station
And if I get lost
Then you are the one that is yelling for me
And I like you because when I am feeling sad
You don't always cheer me up right away
Sometimes it is better to be sad
You can't stand the others being so googly and gaggly every single minute
You want to think about things
It takes time
I like you because if I am mad at you
Then you are mad at me too
It's awful when the other person isn't
They are so nice and hoo-hoo you could just about punch them in the nose
I like you because if I think I am going to throw up
then you are really sorry
You don't just pretend you are busy looking at the birdies and all that
You say, maybe it was something you ate
You say, the same thing happened to me one time
And the same thing did
If you find two four-leaf clovers, you give me one
If I find four, I give you two
If we only find three, we keep on looking
Sometimes we have good luck, and sometimes we don't
If I break my arm, and if you break your arm too
Then it's fun to have a broken arm
I tell you about mine, you tell me about yours
We are both sorry
We write our names and draw pictures
We show everybody and they wish they had a broken arm too
I like you because I don't know why but
Everything that happens is nicer with you
I can't remember when I didn't like you
It must have been lonesome then
I like you because because because
I forget why I like you but I do
So many reasons
On the 4th of July I like you because it's the 4th of July
On the fifth of July, I like you too
If you and I had some drums and some horns and some horses
If we had some hats and some flags and some fire engines
We could be a HOLIDAY
We could be a CELEBRATION
We could be a WHOLE PARADE
See what I mean?
Even if it was the 999th of July
Even if it was August
Even if it was way down at the bottom of November
Even if it was no place particular in January
I would go on choosing you
And you would go on choosing me
Over and over again
That's how it would happen every time
I don't know why
I guess I don't know why I really like you
Why do I like you
I guess I just like you
I guess I just like you because I like you.